14 years ago
10 Lessons Love Has Taught Me (verse 10 through verse 7)
10. Mark your progress.
It's hard to see that someone is evolving when their evolution seems to be crawling at a snail's pace. That does not mean they are not "getting on the same page". It simply means it's taking them longer to process and get through "what is written". We've all heard about being "unequally yoked" and sometimes all that means is we're not on the same page. Just like he can't force you not to read ahead, you can't force him to read any faster. As long as you all are reading the same book, you're on the path to righteousness. Mark the progress you've made and practice patience. All things come in due time.
9. Verbal abuse - that sh*t hurts!
Some may think that since they are not "laying hands" on another individual, that it is okay to rip them a new a**hole every now and again. It's not. When you feel the motivation strike to spew venom at another, before you let go of the final blow remind yourself that, you can't unring a bell. Once the words are out there, what's done and said is done and said. Remember, it's not about being right. It's about being beneficial. Use words to motivate and uplift and leave the gutter talk where it belongs, in the gutter.
8. "One of us must love more / one of us will love less"
Women, to the best of your ability, ALWAYS get a man who loves you MORE than you love him. As women, we can grow to love. But with a man? If he doesn't love your dirty drawers from jump, he never will.
7. Reciprocity is a wish list item when you are a STARTASTIC individual. If it seems that you are constantly giving more in your relationship, chances are you are by "gifting" what is known as "a giver". A giver is a person who will always give the shirt off their back, give their last dollar...it's just who they are. And often times they feel unfulfilled in relationships because the love they give is not the love they are getting back. Recognize that nobody can love you better than God. And as long as He is loving on you, that is all the love you need. Your mate should simply be a reflection of the overflow of love from God. If you keep coming up with the short end of the stick, maybe it's time to reassess yourself as well as your relationship.
verses 6 through 3 after the jump...
It's hard to see that someone is evolving when their evolution seems to be crawling at a snail's pace. That does not mean they are not "getting on the same page". It simply means it's taking them longer to process and get through "what is written". We've all heard about being "unequally yoked" and sometimes all that means is we're not on the same page. Just like he can't force you not to read ahead, you can't force him to read any faster. As long as you all are reading the same book, you're on the path to righteousness. Mark the progress you've made and practice patience. All things come in due time.
9. Verbal abuse - that sh*t hurts!
Some may think that since they are not "laying hands" on another individual, that it is okay to rip them a new a**hole every now and again. It's not. When you feel the motivation strike to spew venom at another, before you let go of the final blow remind yourself that, you can't unring a bell. Once the words are out there, what's done and said is done and said. Remember, it's not about being right. It's about being beneficial. Use words to motivate and uplift and leave the gutter talk where it belongs, in the gutter.
8. "One of us must love more / one of us will love less"
Women, to the best of your ability, ALWAYS get a man who loves you MORE than you love him. As women, we can grow to love. But with a man? If he doesn't love your dirty drawers from jump, he never will.
7. Reciprocity is a wish list item when you are a STARTASTIC individual. If it seems that you are constantly giving more in your relationship, chances are you are by "gifting" what is known as "a giver". A giver is a person who will always give the shirt off their back, give their last dollar...it's just who they are. And often times they feel unfulfilled in relationships because the love they give is not the love they are getting back. Recognize that nobody can love you better than God. And as long as He is loving on you, that is all the love you need. Your mate should simply be a reflection of the overflow of love from God. If you keep coming up with the short end of the stick, maybe it's time to reassess yourself as well as your relationship.
verses 6 through 3 after the jump...
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